Lately I have been having a bit of insomnia. She insists it is menopause.?

It is true that I am 40 but the women in my family have had children without fertility drugs into their 40's (healthy) It really upsets me because I haven't had kids and I just don't want to talk about it and I already had tests from my doctor and he says no you aren't in menopause. Why the second you turn 40 does everything have to be about menopause? I think it is insensitive